Respect: An Exploration

Respect is a mission, a service, a "way to create symmetry, empathy, and connection"; it is self-generating, a "many-splendored quality" that can build relationships and self-esteem. It is, says author Sara Lawrence-Lightfoot, much more than the "static and impersonal" term we often use to describe our deference to traditional hierarchies or symbols. Lawrence-Lightfoot, an award-winning professor at Harvard and the author of several important works of sociology, here observes six subjects known for the respect they bring to their work, inquiring into how this quality has been rooted in and affects each of their lives. From the pediatrician who "sees herself as a servant and helper" to the families she treats to the photographer who believes he can bring out the truth in his subjects only by first making himself vulnerable, the daily heroism of each subject is revealed under the author's warm, curious, respectful eye. Lawrence-Lightfoot even weaves into her inquiry the history of her own African American family and its struggles with gaining and keeping respect. This elegant and accessible book offers alternative models for students, professionals, parents--anyone, really--who would like to harness the healing, strengthening power of this old-fashioned, indispensable quality. --Maria Dolan "A lovely, moving book" -Tracy Kidder

In this stunningly original treasure of a book that reveals the single most powerful ingredient in any relationship, whether personal, professional, or in public life, Sara Lawrence-Lightfoot reaches deep into human experience-from the drama of birth to the solemn vigil before death-to find the essence of respect. In her moving vision, respect is not the passive deference offered a superior but an active force that creates symmetry even in unequal relationships. The reader becomes an eyewitness to the empowering nature of respect, both given and received-be it between doctor and patient, teacher and student, photographer and subject, or midwife and laboring mother. A book to be savored and shared, Respect has the power to change lives.

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